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Chocolate, Zucchini and Coffee Bundt

What ever happened to common courtesy?

We used to live in a world where people said “please” and “thank you”.  If the phone rang after 8:30p, it was likely an emergency.  No one sped in a residential area for fear a child may be walking aimlessly about.  Children were well mannered and if they seemed to be on the verge of misbehaving, all it took was one look from the mother or father, and you knew it would be handled.

Today… neighbors think nothing of coming home noisily at 4:30 in the morning.  Children play on handheld devices (at the highest volume, no less) and parents care more about the children’s entertainment and distraction in a restaurant, than the other patrons enjoyment of their meal.  I’m paying good money for my meal, too… why does my meal have to involve your inability to control your child?  People think it is okay to rest their shopping cart on your car while unloading groceries… but try doing the same to their car.

What happened to ‘do unto others”?

Recently, someone in the neighborhood died.  She had lived in the street for over forty years.  Before she was even buried, people were more concerned about how much her house would be listed for and who would be buying it.

It’s shocking really, how we act towards one another.  I don’t understand how it started or why people don’t stop it.  I can’t tell you how many people I listen to that complain about how other’s behave and then turn around with the exact same behavior.

Are we so rushed that we can’t take the time to not be so aggressive in traffic?  Are we so disempowered in one area of our lives, that we feel it is okay to victimize someone else?  Does someone is your life call you names, that you think it is okay to call another a derogatory term?  I have to tell you… I really don’t understand.

All I know is that it is starting to chip away at my heart.

Is it weird that I think it’s the fault of the news pundits?  I no longer have a television, but I did once and I am not immune to seeing such fodder on websites. We used to be able to debate.  No one was right or wrong. No one demeaned another for having an opinion. We had discussions about relevant topics.  We listened to one another.  Maybe it changed our opinion; maybe it didn’t.

Now, there is a whole host of television personalities calling one another names, accusations are flying, gossip is being mongered. It’s not news anymore.  There is no value to it.  I feel like it is just a group of people with the privilege of getting paid to hear themselves talk.  I’m guessing they get paid by the word, which is why they never stop and listen.

Sadly, though, I feel like these men and women are creating this instruction manual for how we all treat each other.

It doesn’t need to be this way.  Just so you know.

There was a time when people were shamed for their misbehavior. There was a time when we considered how it might impacted another, instead of feeling so entitled that we had to the right to do whatever we wanted.  You don’t, you know….have that right.  We are all on this spaceship together.  My opinion is that we better start figuring it out, again.

There was a time when someone died that the only appropriate behavior was to deliver a homemade something, anything, and wished the family well, hoping that your little treat might alleviate some of the stress the upcoming weeks may hold.  Because, we all know that gestures of courtesy are what we are truly being judged for.

Chocolate Zucchini and Coffee Bundt <— click here for enlarged pdf recipe card

 

 

 

Amanda - August 20, 2012 - 4:11 pm

Sorry to hear about your neighbor. That’s really terrible that some people’s first reaction was how much her house would sell for. On the flip side, there are also people like you who react compassionately and bake something for the family.

I know you said you don’t have a TV, but you might really like the show Newsroom on HBO. They address a lot of what you mentioned in relation to the media.

Jenna - August 20, 2012 - 5:55 pm

I have been feeling this way a lot lately. Especially with loud, inconsiderate neighbors. I may be overly conscientious to the point that I get anxiety about how my actions affect others but I’d rather be that way than the opposite. Your cake is lovely and I want to make it and invite someone over to share! :)

Ali - August 21, 2012 - 12:58 am

You are right! But I have a question… if this is a spaceship, who’s driving? ;-)

Jan - August 21, 2012 - 4:12 pm

You’re totally right, people don’t consider others’ feelings at all anymore! What about people who think someone else will pick up my trash so I’m going to empty out my car of litter on this lawn. WTF????? Do they all live with housekeepers that they don’t know what garbage can is anymore? I’m just so glad to know there are considerate, thoughtful and caring person like you in this world! BTW, cake looks AMAZING!

moonsword - August 27, 2012 - 7:36 pm

Don’t lose hope…there is a sea of good souls out there. They are usually the kind and quiet ones though, the ones you don’t usually notice until they are truly needed…then they emerge with a solidity and strength that makes you feel renewed. I lost my father a few months ago and there they were, offering food and funny stories and offers of help and lots and lots of hugs. They may not stick around as steady or strong as in those moments, but they are there, like the warm sun behind rolling clouds. As long as you keep reaching out in kindness and compassion, know that similar souls will find you. :)
And thank you for sharing the recipe! I just discovered your blog today so I’m off to explore more. Cheers!

kibba - August 28, 2012 - 12:42 am

Well said! Thanks for the recipe!

rosewaterthyme - August 29, 2012 - 1:57 am

you are so welcome!

rosewaterthyme - August 29, 2012 - 1:59 am

thank you so much for your kind comment. I have had a lot of feedback from this post reiterating that, although maybe (maybe not) few and far between…, kindness lurks where you least expect it. I hope you enjoy what you find within these pages… all the best xo rwt

Melissa - August 29, 2012 - 6:55 am

I agree with you wholeheartedly. I’m not quite sure what this world coming to & it can be so disheartening. So many people resort to being cruel, selfish, hostile & unforgiving, & for no justified reason. Yet few remain, like you, who are cognizant & have compassion – these are the few who will let you in front of them in traffic, control their children in public or better yet play baseball with them in real time instead of letting them escape to the Wii, deliver a home-cooked meal to a neighbor in need, refrain from water cooler gossip, treat everyone with general respect, etc. All I can say is “do unto others” & “be the change.” You’re right we are all in this spaceship together, all we can do is help inspire those who pay attention. Your thoughts, recipes & gorgeous photos inspire me. And this bundt looks so lovely & seems like the perfect way to greet the day with a fresh & scrumptious outlook. Keep the faith. There are still inherently good folks out there…somewhere :)

Jessica - September 3, 2012 - 8:27 am

Perrrrfect! Just bought a bunch of zucchini’s on special. Going to give this a go with maple syrup instead of sugar. ;-)

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